“my mindset will raise your children, not my body or good looks or my parents financial condition!” She wanted to tell this to him and his parents

………. They met and fell for each other.she was in dilemma as she felt like “its too good to be true” and her intuitions never disappointed her till date.
she tried to make him realize what he wants from life but he was too much into parents where he didn’t realize he once consider her as his family.

she was screaming, trying to make him understand said,”you have that freedom and that power, it’s just that it seems scary and risky now, but.. Wouldn’t you rather take the risk than be unhappy?” but he seems like unconvinced and Here’s where things stopped being valuable. Where she became paralyzed or stressed out by things outside of her control.

Overthinking…she is a big fan of overthinking! she strongly encourage herself to think about past, present and plan for the future.

She tried to explain him,”Change is a part of life”, it’s actually one of the most beautiful part of living.
now a days because of the Social changes, we are more open and connected than ever. Yet with all that.. you fear change?… you are fearing with the fact that you have to change in order to accommodate the new life. These days, you’re not fearing for your life, but you should fear of being stuck to the past ways.

but…..Life is complicated and we complicate it even more, with choices, decisions, sometimes actions and other times the lack of, but we do things that are not worth it in life or the long run.

she realized that her clock is ticking and at this point she has to reach the finish line.
she realized There probably won’t be a start over no matter how hard she wish there should be.
but She couldn’t understand ,isn’t she worth giving 100% ?
and questions started running in her mind…..why do people settle for less ? why do people make choices that will not lead them to a fulfilling life? What exactly do people do that keeps them from making it?……. Why????

But she knows one thing she has her own journey and it is beyond important to realize that she will only live this once………..”come what may i will do it” like sri sri said……she said it to herself and went to sleep dreaming towards new morning.

It’s more than just a few sleepless nights and stubborn dark circles…

With a cup of Americano in hand and a bunch of thoughts in her mind, she was seeking for someone who will seats besides and will listen to her Cranky thoughts and will give company for her endless drama. But she remembered she has a trust issues so by choice she was seating alone .
Emmediately gathered herself together and started putting down each and every thought on a paper.

She poured her every emotion…..Rejection hurts but feeling of failure without even getting a result ,hurts even worse.
Those were the moments in life when she used to wonder,”is everything going to be okay?”
“Will i ever find a way out of this situation?”
And she said to herself , “Of course you Will!….you will definitely make it my love”.it was her attitude as always she had.

Things were not going too well for her and today was a total screwed up for her, she had a feeling like she is the biggest idiot.
Everything she has worked for could have been flushed down the toilet and she felt like she has nothing left.

And a guy who was observing or you can say stairing at her since Preety longer went to her seeking for a permission to seat,she ignored but he grabbed the chair and make his Ass feets comfortably in that chair.
He said, miss I can understand what you are going through. But…….
She looked at him and started blabbering, “but…… But what? You are not even experiencing this pain that I’m experiencing right now,you Dnt even know my struggle and How the heck would you understand ?

He looked at her and said, “Whatever you are going through right now, it will resolve itself”. Further said, “you Know that I’m also dealing with a similar battle today”? and so is the reason we are seating together”.
If you are not okay, you will be,Have courage, lead with love, treat others with kindness along the way, practice being humble and ask for help if you need it. No matter how bad things get, you can always ask for help”.

She was still staring at him and he continued, “You can do one of two things with this lecture — use it as inspirational quotes or use the insight to change your life.”
Choice is yours and he left with a big question.

Now again a battle between her stubborn heart and mind is started. Although intellectually she knows she’s better off now without it and The question arrives how long do i fight this tug of war between mind and heart.

She finished her last sip of coffee and left all questions their itself….. Tangled and unanswered.

Love yourself, no matter how long it takes or how tough it looks.
Love yourself like you have loved the guy or a girl who broke your heart, how you have loved the one who got away and like you’ve never been hurt before.
Love yourself because on some days, you are all you have.

Dear friend , Tomorrow you may get your life partner ,she can be a working woman,but you should not marry her because she is well established, beautiful and earning but you should think about these facts as well.

-she is a girl, who is as much educated as you are; Who is earning almost as much as you do,lesser or more
-One, who has dreams and aspirations just as you have because she is as human as you are;
-One, who has never entered the kitchen in her life just like you or your Sister, as she was busy in studies and competing in a system
-One, who has lived and loved her parents & brothers & sisters, almost as much as you do for a years of her life;
-One, who has bravely agreed to leave behind all that people who love her, friends without meeting a day doesn’t end, her home, her room, her wardrobe ,her each and every inch of her life to adopt your home, your family, your ways and even your surname
-One, who is somehow expected to be a master-chef from day1 of marriage , while you are a sleep
-One, who is expected to make the tea/coffee/Breakfast first thing in the morning and cook food for lunch and dinner, even if she is as tired as you are, maybe more, and yet never ever expected to complain; to be a servant, a cook, a mother, a wife, even if she doesn’t want to; and is learning just like you are as to what you want from her; and is clumsy and sloppy at times and knows that you won’t like it if she is too demanding, or if she learns faster than you;
-One, who has her own set of friends, and that includes boys and even men at her workplace too, those, who she knows from school days and yet is willing to put all that on the back-burners to avoid your irrational jealousy, unnecessary competition and your inherent insecurities;
-Yes, she can drink and dance just as well as you can, but won’t, simply because you won’t like it.
-One, who can be late from work once in a while when deadlines, just like yours, are to be met or any team dinner
-One, who is doing her level best and wants to make this most important, relationship in her entire life a grand success.
-One, who just wants one thing from you, as you are the only one she knows in your entire house – your generous support, your sensitivities and most importantly – your understanding, or love, if you may call it.

Kindly Appreciate HER!
Love her and stand by her even though you have to go out of the way to encourage or to support her.
Because, “She is a Human just like you are “❤❤❤

Someone once told me,“Your greatest limit is your mind, Miss Dipti. You are the single most powerful thing standing in your own way, and you don’t even realize it”.

Most of the time it happens almost with each of us ,we all have gone through this once or twice or may be more in lifetime but without realizing this.

So now it’s time to Blow the lid off your life.

Be Willing to see impossible life because nothing else is impossible, consider things you never did before but always wanted to pursue, commit yourself a journey with your thoughts.

Is there something that you are passionate about? Pursue it! Your passions should always ignite you.

You haven’t found your calling yet? So what! Look for it! Learn it! Seep it in. Try new things; Put yourself out there and stop being so afraid.

Are you passionate about writing? Start a blog.

Are you passionate about singing? Start recording and sharing your songs (May it a dog bark).

Are you passionate about Acting? Start creating portfolio.

So be it anything breathe in your passion and You will exhale new energy and life.

If you hate your job, Quit or make a change. You don’t need to stay in a job that leaves you feeling lonely or drained. You shouldn’t dread going to work every single day. Because honestly, the suffering just isn’t worth it.

If it isn’t feasible to find a new job or make changes at your current job, think about what you can do to feel more passionate about your job or find a ways that you will feel more comfortable in your workplace.

Don’t wake up to your alarm clock everyday feeling tired and emotionless or dreading your day. Work makes up a big chunk of your life. It takes up hours of your days, days of your week, weeks of your year and years of your life and so lifetime of your thoughts.

This is your life – the way you use your days should be meaningful to you. You shouldn’t want your life to consist of countdowns, day after day, until work ends but by all means your work shouldn’t be awful, it shouldn’t feel like torture. Work should be a part of your life that you like. It should challenge you and help you to grow . And trust me, the moment you realize you no more want to surrender yourself to mediocre life, you deserve more!

In our country, marriage is a life stage that everyone, especially a women, must go through.
Women look through the glasses of emotion and love to start a chapter of life called marriage, but its not the case with men.
In most cases, it’s a man who decides he isn’t ready or doesn’t want to get married, and he makes this decision without any help from anyone.”

When you are a girl and not married by the time you are 30, you are deemed as an incomplete being.
“Your time is up.”
“There must be something wrong with you.”
“You must be lacking in many ways.” and blah….blah…blah…

Society is very prejudiced against unmarried women specially if she is 30 years old and above. Even being married at 27 or 29 years old means cutting it close.

In addition to it cohabitation is a taboo.
The only acceptable way for you to live together with someone of opposite gender and unrelated to you is through that delicate thread of marriage.
Due to all this social stigma, a lot of women choose to settle when they feel like their dead end is approaching.

But i must tell you all my dear friends , It is not important to get married…be it a girl or a boy.

When you think of a marriage, ask yourself first thing, why do you want to get married?
second thing is What do you expect out of a marriage? If you have clarity of these two questions, go ahead.

I don’t say marriage is bad, but if you don’t have a strong reason, then you’re in deep shit.
Marriage is a commitment.
Marriage is dal chawal for 50 saal till you die.
Don’t get married for society, relatives or even for your parents.
Society will eat at your wedding and then forget you and your life like it was a movie.
For the parents, marriage is the perfect opportunity for them to showcase their success by inviting a lot of people to the wedding.Marriage is also essential as it is their last duty towards us as parents. Therefore, strong marriage pressure can also comes from the parents.

At the same time, if you’re looking at getting married just because you want to financially secure your future as probably the most legitimate reason nowadays, you’re morally and ethically wrong.
Never look at financial security in a wedlock. You never know how things can turn up.
If you think getting married will make you happy, you’re wrong.
As a girl, if you are thinking to getting married will give you a shoulder to lean on, then…… you need to be equally strong my love.

For me personally, what matters more than that piece of paper is that marriage needs to reflect the commitment of two people trying to work it out, through thick and thin, in sickness and in health, for richer and for poorer.

Learn to be financially independent and lead a happy life by yourself. If you can’t be happy by yourself, no wedding can keep you happy.

When you think of marriage, have an equal stake in it.

Me to Dad : I’m Not Expecting a lot, I Just Want To Be Sure If that XYZ person is of my type.
I am looking for compatibility and long-term committment.

I have always heard my Family ,relatives and colleagues saying this to me that I’m smart, intelligent, attractive and people of my age are married (which is a main Moto behind tons of compliments), having baby or Atlist hitched with someone.
Who are you waiting for?
Do you need a prince to propose you as if you are some princess? And, only then you will date or like someone?

I have heard people ranting, taunting and literally forcing me to hook up with someone most of the time.

People ask me my relationship status and are baffled at the fact that I have been single for a really long time as well few said I’m in live-in and that I’d like to keep it that way.

First thing first, why is my relationship all of a sudden becomes an international concern? I’m sure we have better things to talk about Like JCB trolls, politics,latest movies and What are the takeaway from those?

My private life has been named private for some specific reason so you have and i like to keep it private for as long as I want to.

Coming back to the topic of remaining single, people often confuse it with me being more demanding , picky ,must be indulged into intercaste or inter Religion for that matter.

Let me tell you my friends
I am not picky, I just want to be with someone whose presence makes me feel HOME.
Whenever me & my squad discuss about some guy who they all would like to see me with, I have my long lists of reasons to not like him like He has no table manners , he doesn’t have dressing sense , he doesn’t respect older people or poor people and so on…..

My list frustrates them and they always says I will die single .
But, my love! for a God sake You tell me, When you go for shopping even if it’s grocery or outfit, don’t you see everything properly? Right from the material to the size to the quantity to the prize?

Just like that, I’m gonna spend my entire lifetime with that one person,where no exchange or return policy applicable . Shouldn’t I consider all my expectations before moving ahead ?

My dad always says no-one is perfect, neither I am.
I accept the fact but I want a companion for lifetime who will accept me with my all flaws and strengths.

People might feel that I am very selective or full of attitude but the real fact is I simply know what I deserve my love .
Maybe it is because of the books that I have read, the places I have been to ,the series I have watched or people I met till now that has made my thought process so much different.

You might feel like I expect too much but I am not. If I am going to marry someone I would like to be a 100% sure about it.
I don’t want a relation where a person will stay and leave whenever it is convenient for him,but I want someone who will stand by me through thick and thin throughout my lifetime.

It is my responsibility to provide all good life to myself not the poisonous one.
Honestly, I don’t have time for casual hookups and turn around to walk off when the topic of real commitment is put forth! Those are not men, those are merely guys who are afraid of commitment or responsibility .
Honestly, if people see this as a phase where I don’t have anyone, I have me and I have plenty of opportunities to give time to self growth,to earn money, to build my kingdom and to provide each and every happiness to my family.

So I’m ready to wait for the man of my dreams who makes my heart skip a beat or who will make my heart beats faster like anything because settling for anything lesser isn’t my cup of tea.

Of course, I won’t find a prince charming,But my man will be someone who will be better than all those things. I am alone by my choice ,because I want to take my time before I decide to hold someone’s hand for entire life.

After a long time I had a dream
Everything is pretty clear just not him🤔

I saw him, he saw me
We saw each other like we have never been.

He smiled, I blink
He wink, I ignored him
He came closer, and offer me ice-cream
How could I say NO. .. Oh man…. It’s an ice-cream .

I still remember the yummy flavor of ice-cream…. but not him

Alarm rang and I fell for that beautiful dream

Relationship for me is that I accept you for the person that you are, and that I do not wish to change you into someone else. It means that I will love you and stand by you even through the worst of times. It means loving you even when you’re in a bad mood, or too tired to do the things I want to do. It means loving you when you’re down, not just when you’re fun to be with. means that I know your deepest secrets and do not judge you for them, asking in return that you do not judge me for mine. It means that I care enough to fight for what we have and that I love you enough not to let go. It means thinking of you, dreaming of you, wanting and needing you constantly, and hoping you feel the same way for me.

During a seminar I have attended, a woman asked to an Orator,” How do I know if I am with the right person?”The orator then noticed that there was a huge man sitting next to her so he said, “It depends. And further asked, Is that your partner?”
In all seriousness, she answered “How do you know?”
An Orator replied ,”Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it’s weighing on your mind”

Here’s the beautiful answer by an Orator.

Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls,
want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies.
Falling in love wasn’t hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn’t have to DO anything. That’s why it’s called “falling” in love.People in love sometimes say, “I was swept of my feet.”Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU.

Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades.
It’s a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.

Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all),touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse’s idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.
The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, “Am I with the right person?” And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else.
This is when relationships breakdown.

The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the person you found.

People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes, sizes and colours.

Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship.
It lies within your relationship.

I’m not saying that you couldn’t fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you’d feel better. But you’d be in the same situation a few years later.

Because

The key to succeeding in a Relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the Person you found.